I know a couple who have two boys , one a well behaved , Good at studies and calm where as the other is frequently naughty .
Sitting in my multi purpose space ✨️ with the cup of my ginger green tea in the Dawn reciting Sura e Yousuf a.s , I took myself in the era of the time . Psychologically thinking that why the brothers of Hazrat Yousuf a.s took that weird step to throw Hazrat Yousuf a.s in a well , they didn't mean to kill him but to hide him from the fatherliness benignity of Hazrat Yaqoob a.s because the brother had grudges with Hazrat e Yousuf a.s n Bin Yameen ( the younger brother) as after the death of the two brother's mother, the elders thought that they are getting compared with them and fetching the most love from father Hazrat Yaqoob a.s although Hazrat Yaqoob a.s was striving to give them Love as their mother died off.
Grudges mostly experience when a child is being compared with the other one .
There's no way your children are going to have an easy relationship if jealousies and rivalries are allowed to grow up between them .
I know a couple who have two boys , one a well behaved , Good at studies and calm where as the other is frequently naughty .
I believe to some extent its parents neglection to say the other child "naughty" rather than "different ". When even our eye balls and thumb print are different then how can it possible to have same nature all the time .
So don't ever let one of them know that you think they're better at some specified tasks.
That doesn't mean we have to pretend that are equally good at everything . That would be insensible. But we don't have to point out inequalities that they might not have thought about and you don't have to comment on any of their abilities in relation to each other.
That's the critical thing now , we would say to our child : you're really talented at art " . Without telling them that he is better than his brother . After all, why pick on their poor brother ? It's no more relevant than the fact that they're better than Fred Blogg at art . 😊 But it gives the impression to the brother that you view your children as a co-ordinating set rather than as individuals. And in this case it tells their brother who is not good at this but may be at any other field that he's the shop-soiled one of the set.
Sometimes our behaviors Seed grudges in children which with the passage of time roots inside the personality.
We need to seed equity roots so that the world can become a beautiful grudges free state.
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